The Miss(es).

In my recent observations of the world (well, women really) around me and with (perhaps) a bit of self-reflection, it seems I have discovered a weakness in some single women. (It's about time, right?) We, single women*, tend to live at extremes.

Let me explain. It seems there are some women who have abandoned all values and self-respect and seem to date any guy who has a shirt on. And then there are women so tied up in fairytales that they overlook several princes. Let's call the first single type of woman "Miss Opportunity" and the second type of single lady "Miss Overlook."

There are a number of reasons that could define why "Miss Opportunity" dates any guy who registers a pulse. However, I think that two reasons are most likely. She could be fearful of ending up alone or she could misinformed when it comes to her worth. The fear is the easier one to resolve. "Miss Opportunity" may not understand that she is valuable...and in the eyes of an incredible God, she is full of beauty. She doesn't need to settle for something or someone that fills her "love" bank temporarily and then at any sign of withdrawal, leaves her feeling empty. In an attempt to feel comfortable and secure again, she reinvests herself in something and someone new. "Miss Opportunity", hear me when I say, that God will  overfill your "love" bank and even replenish it when you're the one who withdrawals. But first, you must recognize that you are searching for unconditional love in a world full of conditions. You must first realize that you have value and beauty. God sees it and with Him you will never be alone.

"Miss Overlook" probably knows God. She may have just started trusting Him or may have trusted Him for years. And because of this, she knows that she is God's wonderful daughter. So what's the problem? Well "Miss Overlook" finds it hard to give any guy a chance (though she may not even be aware of it) because she is imposing her view of God on man. There is one God and many men. Men are in Christ's image, but are not Christ. Do not forget that they have faults. Do not forget that they have pasts. Do not forget they make mistakes. Do not forget that they may struggle with showing loving or executing forgiveness. (And don't forget "Miss Overlook" you may struggle with those things too). A man may not always share your definition of love. His idea of fighting for you may seem more to you like him surrendering (giving up). "Miss Overlook" realize that the way God, your Father, loves you is the way you should attempt to love. And then instead of looking to receive a particular definition of love that you think will satisfy you, you will be able to give God's love. And it may be through the giving of Christ-like love that you find love back. Love that you're thankful you didn't overlook.

*The term "single women" in this post refers to females who are not yet married.